Our loss

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  1. McFortner

    McFortner Member

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    Joseph Michael Fortner was born on March 17, 2003 at 8:45 P.M. after 8 hours of labor. He was 34 weeks and 5 days, weighed 5 lbs, and was 19.06 inches long. He looked exactly like his bigger brother, down to the dimple in his chin. Unfortunately, this labor was not a planned one, but induced, as Joseph Michael was stillborn. Joseph Michael twisted his cord all the way from his belly button to the placenta, causing his sudden demise. He looked quite peaceful, and was not in any distress at his time of passing. He is well loved, and is being grieved.


    Michael & Kate
    Daniel 01-28-98
    Joseph Michael Fortner, Angel Baby, 03-17-03
  2. Russ Bellinis

    Russ Bellinis Active Member

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    I'm sorry to hear that your baby was still born. Love your wife, and don't either one of you allow the other one to either blame or take blame for what happened. Babies sometimes get twisted up in the umbilical cord and strangle in the womb. It is no one's fault!
  3. Matthyro

    Matthyro Will always be re-membered

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    Our thoughts and prayers are with you Michael & Kate
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    Drew1125 Active Member

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    Michael & Kate,
    I'm so sorry to hear of your loss...there is no loss that can compare to the loss of a child...my thoughts & prayers are with you & your family.
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    Michael and Kate,
    We are very sorry for your loss, and we are glad you have each other for the hard times.

    Cid and Carole
  6. absnut

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    Mike and Kate,

    Nothing in life prepares us for this experience. Give support to and draw strength from each other. Please accept our sincerest sympathies and understanding for your loss. You are in our thoughts.

    Dick and Linda
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    Michael and Kate.

    May God be with you during this time.

    Dick and Sandy
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    Michael and Kate,

    our thoughts are with you. May your love give you the strength to carry through this sad time.

    Ron and Marianne
  9. Tyson Rayles

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    The death of a child is always the hardest to take. I don't know of any words that can do much good at this point. Hopefully to know hundreds of us here share in your loss and hold you and your family in our thoughts and prayers can be of comfort.
  10. ezdays

    ezdays Out AZ way

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    Michael, Kate and Daniel

    Our thoughts and prayers go out to you all during these trying times. It is difficult to understand why these things happen to good people, but it does, and it serves to make them closer and to give them strength to move ahead.

    Don and Peggy Day
  11. Gary Pfeil

    Gary Pfeil Active Member

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    Oh my gosh Michael, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I am not eloquent with words but think I understand the pain of losing a child. It's just not supposed to happen. No one wants to outlive their children! All I can say is hang in there and be strong for each other. Time will lessen the pain.

    Best wishes, Gary
  12. billk

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    We're here for you, my friend.
  13. jon-monon

    jon-monon Active Member

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    Friend Michael,

    I was saddened to read about your baby, my thoughts and prayors go out to you and your wife Kate as well as the sole of the baby. You now have an angel in the heavans, looking over you as you journey through life. Thank you for sharing your tragedy with us, so we may know you are suffering.

    jon
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    shamus Registered Member

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    Michael, Kate and Daniel
    So very very sorry to hear that your baby was still born, my thoughts and prayer go to you all.
    Shamus
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    Sincere condolences, from Irene & Mike Robertson.
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    Michael, I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this sad time.

    Jim
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    hi michael

    sorry to hear that. i know and understand what you and your family is going though it is hard to lose any one in your family and even more painful when it is your own child i live with that fear every night when i put my boy to bed he has a very rare gentic brain dissorder called canavan's it slowly turns the brain into soup. this is what the church told me and my wife thing happen to pepole to see how strong they are and some pepole take it in stride and some don't give it time and always think of your son do something in his memory on your layout a car with his name on it or something like that it, it's like my dad tells me time heals all wounds but with a loss of a child time never heals that wound the memroy of him is all you have i know he wasn't with your family long but he is still with you all in your hearts he will always be with you all and knowing he isn't with you in body he is with you in soul
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    Michael, Kate and Daniel,
    I am not too good with words at a time like this. Mere words are never enough to encompass or lessen the grief you must feel. All I can say is that you are all in my thoughts. Hold on to each other, for in the midst of this tragedy, you still have each other - and that is a lot.

    val
  19. YakkoWarner

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    Sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you.
  20. N Gauger

    N Gauger 1:20.3 Train Addict

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    A most unnerving thing to come about.. :( :( Our condolences to you all. Please remember that there is a reason in the Lord's mind that this sort of think happens to someone. -- It will make your love for your family stronger.

    I have a close friend that He & His wife lost 2 "unborns" within 5 years - They're other children Born both before & after are healthy & Happy and in their 20's.. May God bless you all!!!

    ~~ Mikey